Talk with me

Marek Mruczkowski, Poland

mjmruczkowski@gmail.com

My aim

Providing useful solutions to family conflicts.
Rules before communication. Any, even theoretically ideal, method of resolving conflicts will be ineffective in the case of:
- exclusion of the agreement,
- blocking communication,
- using the power argument,
- hiding real intentions,
- treating the state of conflict as favourable,
- ignoring ad rem arguments,
- punishment with isolation when contact is necessary,
- taking advantage of doing harm.
A dramatic state of conflict will be the occurrence of all these threats at the same time.

In the proposed application, the condition for logging in to the edition is a declaration of refraining from the use of the listed acts of communication destruction.

The leader registering a new case can choose one of the following options:
- ordinary communication, where everyone logged in with a key can present their messages, positions, views.
- expressing a position on a matter raised by the Leader,
- negotiating an agreement (protected entity, protected values, purpose, methods, causes of conflict).
- negotiating an agreement in the presence of the manager.
The leader can choose / change the communication option depending on the needs.

Talk

Default application setting.
The initiator is the registrant of the new case (Leader).
A. Observer Forum. Anyone who knows the website address and key can send a message. They cannot be edited, deleted. This forum is not visible after logging in with a key and password.
B. Forum of participants (logged in with key and password). They are indicated by the number:
1 Initiator
2 Invited
3 Managers
The last message of the participant is presented. All are sent to the archive.
In option B, the texts can be deleted by the Initiator, if there were no participants ever logged in with the password.
A and B are liquidated in accordance with the data lifetime selected by the Initiator when registering the case.

Council

The leader creates a list of participants (maximum 30) and introduces the topic.
The last topic of the Leader and the last announcement of the participant are presented.
Deletion of data after going through another option (talk, negotiations) or in accordance with the data lifetime selected by the Leader.

Negotiations

Editing a form by two participants.
The last position is presented. If you agree to the text of the other party, just type "agreed".
The goal of the participants is to reach agreement on all points.

	intentions	Initiator	Invited
1	Aim
2	Entity protected
3	Protected value
4	Method of implementation
5	Time
6	Causes of conflict
7	Negotiation rules

Goal setting rules

1. Defined clearly, honestly, unequivocally, in one sentence.

2. It is unacceptable to force the achievement of secret goals.

3. The expected, useful state of the common good.

4. It is unacceptable to force and hinder the achievement of goals at the same time.

5. Goals before, ways later.

6. It is inappropriate to formulate goals illegibly, e.g. change, strengthen, improve.

7. Formulated in such a way that it is possible to control the implementation.

8. A goal is a fragment of an intention.

9. Not achieved or realized yet.